Starving for Intimacy—But She’s Not Hungry?
“Are You Done Yet?”: Why Sex Feels Like a Chore (And How to Make It Delicious Again)
You’re not in a sexless marriage because you stopped having sex.
You’re in a sexless marriage because somewhere along the way, sex became a routine—one where no one’s actually satisfied.
Many men were taught to be gentlemen. “She comes first,” right?
But imagine going to your favorite restaurant and saying, “Are you done yet so I can have mine?” That’s not intimacy. That’s pressure.
Today, let’s talk about how to turn that routine into real pleasure. How to go from rushed and disconnected to relaxed, turned on, and deeply connected.
No pressure. No pills. No awkward talks.
Just a shift in how you think about sex—and how you share it.
Sex Isn’t Broken. The Routine Is.
Most couples fall into the same 3-step routine:
He goes down on her. She goes down on him. They do it. Done.
But no one’s actually satisfied. It feels like a task to get through, not a moment to savor.
If there’s no big “boom,” it feels like something’s wrong. But it’s not. It just means the definition of sex you’ve inherited is far too small.
🍍 The Pizza Analogy (That Will Change Your Sex Life)
Sex is like pizza. Even frozen pizza is still pizza… but there’s a difference between that and gourmet.
Most couples end up settling. Kevin loves pepperoni. Jackie loves pineapple. But for years, they compromise on mushroom. They eat it, but no one loves it.
Sound familiar?
Instead of settling, what if you took turns?
One week, Kevin gets pepperoni, just the way he likes it. The next, Jackie gets her pineapple, no guilt, no compromise. They both look forward to it. And guess what? The anticipation is the best aphrodisiac.
🧩 The New Recipe: Huddling, Pleasure, and Practice
Inside The Intimacy Game Plan, I teach couples a new way to connect through a practice called The Huddle. It’s a wordless moment of presence—no awkward conversations, no need for penetration. Just connection. Just pleasure.
The goal isn’t to “finish.” The goal is to share.
Those soft “Mmm…” sounds? They’re not just sexy. They’re actual neural signals. They tell your body it’s safe to relax, enjoy, and connect.
When you huddle, you build chemistry, awareness, trust, and connection—all without performance pressure. You’re not trying to do it right. You’re just feeling again.
🛑 ED, PE, Pain, Low Libido? This Still Works.
When penetration is no longer the goal, your menu of options expands.
This is where tantra meets science.
Pleasure isn’t about performance. It’s about presence.
And guess what? That presence—your real self, jiggles and all—is what your partner really wants.
🧠 Want to Be a Gourmet Lover?
You don’t need the perfect body.
You don’t need a different partner.
You just need a new recipe, a little practice, and the willingness to try something different.
If you’re ready to stop settling and start savoring, I’d love to show you how.
👉 Download the FREE Intimacy Game Plan
👉 Apply for coaching with me here
