He’s Checked Out: Why So Many Husbands Are Quietly Quitting Marriage
Are you a man who’s done “working on it”? Or a partner wondering why he’s pulled away? You’re not alone.
I’m Amy Color, your intimacy coach. For over 25 years, I’ve helped men and couples reconnect emotionally and physically—without therapy, pills, or pressure. In my program, The Intimacy Game Plan, couples learn how to move from silence and distance back into real connection.
Let me tell you about one of my couples. They’d been married 20 years. He told her, “I’m moving into the spare bedroom. I’ll stay until the kids are old enough, but I’m done.” He’d tried. He went to therapy. He learned to listen. But every session just reinforced how much he was getting wrong.
He didn’t want a divorce—but he didn’t want to feel like a failure either. His wife had her reasons: tired, busy, not in the mood. But for him, physical intimacy was love. Without it, he felt rejected and ashamed. Like so many men, he turned to coping: porn, massage, secrecy. And that just made the shame worse.
But here’s the truth: He wasn’t the problem. And neither was she. They were stuck in a loop of unmet needs and misunderstood signals. That’s where The Intimacy Game Plan came in. He learned how to be a team captain—not by pressuring or fixing her, but by initiating a new kind of connection.
It started with a Huddle. A three-breath ritual to drop defenses and get on the same page emotionally. He learned how to create a moment of connection that wasn’t about getting to sex—it was about tuning in. She felt safe. He felt effective.
Then came the practical tools: pelvic floor massage to ease her pain, whole-body pleasure moves that felt good for both of them, hand jobs that weren’t just “jobs” but genuine acts of love. He led. She received. They built trust, turn by turn.
By learning to give and receive pleasure—not just chase orgasms—they found something more powerful than performance: intimacy. And with it, joy, laughter, and chemistry returned.
Now, he’s not begging. He’s leading. She’s not avoiding. She’s responding. They’re teammates again—in bed and in life.
Need more?
If you’ve ever felt like roommates instead of partners or lovers, it’s not too late. Download the FREE Intimacy Game Plan and start huddling tonight. Or talk to me and apply for the full program.
Because you deserve to feel safe, loved, and connected—not just on paper, but in your skin. Intimacy is your skill. Pleasure is your practice. And connection is the cure.
Let’s build it—together.
