Are You Still Asking Your Partner For Sex?
Here’s Why That’s Turning Her Off
What if I told you that asking for sex might be the very thing turning your partner off?
It’s true.
Think about it—when she says “Can we talk?” don’t you tense up a little? For her, being asked for sex feels the same way. It’s pressure. It puts her on the spot. And it shifts intimacy from something shared… to something expected.
It’s not that she doesn’t want intimacy. She just doesn’t want to be asked. She wants to feel it. Be invited into it. Turned on—not tasked with saying yes or no.
❌ Why Talking Isn’t Helping
You’ve been told to “talk about everything,” but not everything can—or should—be talked about.
Sex and talking are both deeply vulnerable. And sometimes, when words fail, your presence, your energy, your attunement matter more than anything you say.
Connection isn’t built from performance or pressure. It’s built from presence.
👥 Her Guard Isn’t About Libido
One of my clients once asked: “Are we ever going to have sex again?”
Her response? “I don’t care if we ever do—but I know my marriage needs it.”
That wasn’t low libido. It was low safety.
It was her feeling that sex was something he got from her, not something they shared.
When couples feel like they're stuck in this dynamic, disconnection grows. It's not anyone’s fault—it's the wiring, the pressure, and the unspoken rules.
🔁 The Reset That Reignites Everything
In The Intimacy Game Plan, we flip the script.
We take sex and heavy conversations off the table—on purpose. Just for a little while.
Instead, couples learn how to Huddle—a wordless practice of physical closeness, mutual pleasure, and shared presence. No expectations. No “what ifs.” Just connection.
And what happens?
She initiates.
He relaxes.
The spark returns—not because they talked it out, but because they created a space where desire could return.
💋 A New Menu for Pleasure
This isn’t about withholding. It’s about rewiring.
In one of my favorite stories, a wife covered her husband’s eyes with a scarf (just like I teach) and initiated something playful, sensual, and deeply connecting.
It wasn’t about giving him sex. It was about playing again.
And him? He experienced a “super orgasm.” No pressure. Just presence. Real intimacy. Real chemistry.
🧩 Want That Spark Back?
If asking for it isn’t working, take it off the table—on purpose.
👉 Download the FREE Intimacy Game Plan and start huddling tonight.
Because connection isn’t something you chase—it’s something you create.
Together.
