Q: Dear #AskAmyColor, I’m feeling disconnected from my husband and it’s causing me anxiety. When I try to talk about my feelings he gets mad and says he doesn’t want to hear it, I'm ‘stressing him out’. I don’t know what to do. It’s affecting our relationship. He won’t talk to a therapist. I feel stuck, what do I do? ~Grace

Q: Hi Amy, As you know, I have a hard time relaxing and feeling sexy for Dustin in the best of times. Now being in lockdown I’m feeling extra anxious and worried about everything. He's constantly making advances. Even when I give in, he wants more. He's bugging me. I'm not in the mood! What should I do?  ~ Emily

He realized that having some skills affected all parts of his life, he’d since got a promotion, a girlfriend and yes, he truly was a more confident man. 

Q: My wife won't give me enough sex. I masturbate and watch too much porn. She's not sexually active like before we got married.

If we go into an encounter without taking the time to feel present and connect we might miss the entire point of the encounter.

Q: I’m the one always initiating sex. In all the years that we have been together she never reaches for me. When we do have sex she never tells me what she wants. We argue more and I find myself less attracted to her. I don’t feel desirable and I worry about our future. Can you help us?

It's my mission for men, and couples, to have fully expressed sensual playful, connected, confident, satisfying, healing, intimate physical connection. No matter what was going on in their lives or with his Big Ole Boy 'BOB'.

It makes sense. You feel like if you can't finish the game, why even start? I get it! 

Getting in the mood -together- is about calming the mind and synchronizing your rhythms. Here are three simple steps to follow. 

The G-Spot is inside the vagina, on the front side, right above the pubic bone about 1-1.5” just inside of her on the same side as her belly and the area feels bumpy like the roof of your mouth. 

The key to good anything is skill, but in intimacy it is mostly presence. Presence allows you the ability to read your partner’s cues and respond in a way that promotes more pleasure, which is the ultimate goal.

You can learn what it is to have a secure relationship with yourself. You've heard someone described as 'secure with themselves, this means they like themselves and have healthy boundaries.

I’m glad you reached out to me and I am sure there are others in your circle of family and friends that can support you through this.

It makes sense, based on sexual messages you have been bombarded with through media and porn, that you would think that you are automatically supposed to know what to do in every sexual situation, but how could you?

You may think that making sure she has her orgasm first means she is having a good time and is satisfied. You can then go on to the finish knowing that you are a good and caring lover, right? However, it’s highly possible she has never been fully sexually satisfied.

Everyone’s has different appetites. Negotiating the shared erotic menu – or dining out guide, is the key to a satisfying relationship.

Intimacy, is not something that can just be talked about, it must be felt and experienced!You can talk about sex and intimacy issues with your doctor or sex therapists with certain expected results.

Intimacy increases Sex! Sex, or intercourse is one way to express intimacy. Emotional intimacy doesn't automatically occur with sexual intimacy.