Avoiding Sex Because Of Unpre-Dick-tability?

Q: I can't always get hard and when I do it doesn't really stay hard... I avoid sex with my wife becaue it's too disappointing. This feels hopeless to me. I don't want her to know I've contacted you, can you help? 

A: It makes sense. You feel like if you can't finish the game, why even start? I get it! BOB* can be so unpredicktable. *Big Ole Boy.
You may think this is your 'problem' therefore you need to fix it, but this affects both of you and i want you to know it can lead to an even better sex life. 

I remember the first time I talked with Scott and Carol, a couple in a similar situation. I said to him "Congratulations! You're about to learn how to be a real lover!" 

By allowing sex to be about sensual pleasure and curiosity like they did when they met as teenagers they transformed their sexless frustration into intimate physical connection. Allow variety into your pleasure, imagination, tongues, fingers and toys and you will never be disappointed. Great sex is about so much more than BOB in Vag. 
Don't let lack of an erection stop you from enjoying a delicious, intimate, sensual, adventurous and alive sex life.